Stop Letting Life Happen to You!
About eight years ago, I was living in a trailer park in Lakeside.
It wasn’t a house I was ever really proud of, and even though I had put a lot of work on upkeep and remodeling it, It was still just… a trailer….Way out of town, in a place I wasn’t exactly proud to tell people I lived.
I had a career as a personal trainer, working nonstop to get more clients, to make more money. But even when I did have free time, I wasn’t happy. I had no real close friends and I didn’t like inviting people over.
And the worst part?
I thought this was just how life was supposed to be.
It wasn’t.
Here are five signs you’re living passively—and how to take your power back.
1. You Tolerate Work That Drains You
You tell yourself, “This is just how it is.”
You stay comfortable, putting off change for years—maybe decades.
I had a steady stream of clients, but deep down, I craved something more. I knew I had a bigger purpose than just grinding for the next paycheck. But I kept pushing forward because it was safe.
Then I realized something:
If you stay passive, the next five years will look like the last five.
What would you build if you had total freedom?
And if you’re not starting now—why?
2. You Let Your Emotions Control You
You’re stuck in stress, self-doubt, and exhaustion.
You’re not living new years—you’re living the same year over and over.
That was me. Chasing success, thinking more money would solve everything, while feeling lonelier than ever.
When you become a self-leader, you stop waiting to feel ready.
You take action despite the fear. You take control.
What would you do if fear no longer got in your way?
3. You’re Indecisive
You hesitate. You second-guess.
You’re afraid of making the wrong choice, so you don’t choose at all.
And if you do this in small things, you do it in big things too.
- Where you live.
- Who you date.
- What kind of life you build.
A self-leader makes bold decisions.
Pick one decision you’ve been avoiding and make it right now.
4. You Have Weak Boundaries
You avoid conflict.
You say yes when you mean no.
You let people walk all over you.
And because of this, you attract the wrong people, the wrong relationships, the wrong opportunities.
A self-leader demands respect over approval.
What are you tolerating right now that needs to stop?
5. You’re Your Own Worst Enemy
A passive man speaks to himself like his worst critic.
And because he doesn’t believe he deserves more,
He tolerates bad friendships, bad relationships, bad jobs.
But a self-leader is his own best friend.
If you spoke to a child the way you speak to yourself,
What kind of man would he grow up to be?
So I’ll ask you this:
How long will you wait before demanding the best for yourself?
If you truly believed in your worth, is this the life you would accept?
This is what we do in Men’s Work.
This is what we cultivate in The Sacred Kings.
A brotherhood where you don’t settle for a passive life. Where you learn to lead yourself, sharpen your purpose, and take action.
Drop a comment below: Which of these signs hit hardest for you? Or, if you’re ready for real change, reach out and let’s talk.